Comments on: How do you punish irresponsible parents without harming the children?

By: mommy0f3

mommy0f3 — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 18:24:51 +0000

i just happened to stumble on to this website and it just so happens that i am going through a simular situation.I have a family member who had her children(4) takein from her just 3 days ago,and i and other family members are trying very hard to get them ALL back,we believe they should stay within the family and be givin a second chance at a good life.Either way would be better than it was.But my point being is that we have faugt with her over this for years and almost lost them many times before. I would rather they be in the family, but she deffinetly should not get her children back.It should just be a rule that if your children are removed from the home for any reason they should not be allowed to return.

By: HAHA

HAHA — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

Having children is a part of being human. Most people have them at some point. Back in the day the average person had a lot more than they do today. 10 kids used to be quite common. Now it seems the average is around 3. Are you saying that poor people shouldn’t be able to have kids? I think irresponsible should be defined a little more. How do you know they don’t want them? People who don’t want their kids have options. Everyone should be able to experience the joys of having children. Not everyone can have good jobs and make good money. Some people abuse the system and maybe there should be more things in place to stop that. But, some people don’t and genuinely need some help. There will always be rich and poor people in our country unless we change from a democracy to something else where everyone can be more equal. I think the government already intervenes in the lives of people too much. If we are going to spend money on anything…I can’t think of a better place to spend it on then spending it on people less fortunate.

By: Lisa A

Lisa A — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

If you lose your children to social services, you should not get them back. Ever. You shouldn’t get a second chance when it comes to the welfare of your children.

Then the parents’ benefits can be taken away without hurting the children. And the children don’t have to linger in foster care for the rest of their childhoods, bouncing from home to home. They can be placed PERMANENTLY with loving, responsible parents.

By: squeederdork

squeederdork — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

You can’t.

if you "fine" the parents, the kids suffer. if you throw the parents (or one parent) in jail, the kids suffer. If you take the kids away fromteh parents, everyone suffers, including me, the taxpayer, in higher fees to raise these kids.

Unless you are willing to take China-like measures to limit people 9and America was built on freedom to choose), you are really stuck

By: asailor77

asailor77 — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

you raise a very good point and I believe that a solution is needed as well! What a hard situation we have here and it is time more people realize that by cutting off or punishing parents you are essentially giving their children no hope for a future. We have to alter this situation,, but I am sorry to say i just don’t know what to do. I do think we need to start holding people accountable for their actions however and there has gotta be a way to do that without harming the innocent children. You sound like a very interesting individual to conversate with.

By: idontknowitall

idontknowitall — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

vasectomy with a capital V baby. (or tubal with … well you get the idea) i know you said that sterilization isn’t allowed but i just HAD to throw that in there. if not the only other option is serious jail time for neglect when they can’t take care of their offspring and give the kids to some adoptive parents who will likely do a better job. anyone who says the natural parents will do a better job has just not worked with public.

By: O.G.

O.G. — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

we can teach birth control, but i don’t want to hear about what we spend on AMERICANS when we spend billions on other countries food, defense, roads, etc,etc,

By: TWIN DOG

TWIN DOG — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

It’s just how it is meant to be or have you heard of a better master plan There will be those who other wise would of otherwise not gotten out of those situations unable to help the next ones hay! sacrifices will be made try to have faith look at it this way are you doing your part to your children if so then that’s one miracle more hurray for us today

By: Disciple

Disciple — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

Interesting. However, America is based on freedom and people will do what they choose. There really isn’t much we could do to punish the parents without harming the children. It’s a personal choice to not have kids until a more convenient time and they’re are people who do not believe in birth control.

I do agree with you. Irresponsible people should be reprimanded for their actions. I’m sure if there wasn’t a system in place to give handouts to people who make bad choices then people would maybe think twice about what they do.

By: Mirca

Mirca — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:18:49 +0000

In response to Lisa A – The problem is that most children who get taken by the state NEVER get loving homes, in this country. They go from foster home to foster home. They turn 18 and then they are "adults" who have not had a real family and now have no one. There are not enough good parents willing to open their homes to the troubled children … these children are taken away for good reasons and they are left scarred and damaged from their past childhood. Some do, many don’t. Don’t assume it is usually a happy ending when a child is taken. Hopefully the situations they are placed into are better than the situation they left, but often they are not "happy warm fuzzy loving" homes.