How much individual attention do children in large families normally get?
I occasionally have caught episodes of "18 Kids and Counting" and "Jon and Kate Plus 8", and I have sometimes wondered this. I grew up as an only child, so of course, I got plenty of undivided attention from my mother. (Some would say too much, but that’s another story.) I really wonder how much individual attention the Duggar and Gosselin kids normally get. How often do they have heart-to-heart discussions with their parents? Can it actually be psychologically harmful for children to belong to such a large family?
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on 18 kids and counting they are all always together! And on jon and kate they take them places indevidually, I am sure they do more so off set. It may be more strain on the Duggars though, I only have 2 but they get plenty of one on one time with me, and so does daddy. No i dont think it is harmful God will never give u more than u can handle. You just has to know how to work with what u have
im the middle child out of five kids and we never really had one on one time with our parents so the kids on those shows probably arent getting any attention at all. i feel bad for them
No. I really wish I had more siblings. Having siblings then not having siblings makes me feel like an only child and I hate it.
i can’t speak to a family of 18, but as a parent of four i can say that each of my kids gets plenty of parental attention. while it’s certainly less parental attention than they’d get if they were an only child, they get a lot of sibling attention to make up for it, and i think that’s also very valuable in a different way.
I grew up in a family with 10 kids. The oldest was 19 when the youngest was born. I loved having my big family, we spent tons of time together! We did everything together, and we were/are very close. We all got plenty of attention, but that is also because my parents made sure that we felt very loved and cared for, so I suppose it depends how much effort you put into it. But for me… it worked out great, and plan to have a big family with my husband!
I have never timed how much time I spend with each of my kids individually. I don’t have a set schedule for it or anything like that. Every single day they all get individual attention in many ways.
I don’t think it is psychologically harmful for children to be in a large family as long as the parents haven’t taken on more than they can handle. I have 6 kids and will not have more because I don’t believe that my husband and I could financially and emotionally support more than that.
Absolutely, no matter how many parents say their kids get enough attention, when there’s more kids it’s obvious the attention splits so they get less and less depending on how many they are. It makes sense. I have 3 siblings and working parents so we never really got the attention we needed, I was a mess all through my teen years and my mom told me repeatedly how she wishes she had spent more time with me. She runs her own business so she works like crazy, not that I blame her at all, I thank her for everything and love her very much, but yeah, kids NEED attention, if they don’t get it from their parents they look for it somewhere else.. And that is just risky.
So for my family, my husband and I have a son and are still undecided about having a 2nd one tops, I guess time will tell
God Bless