What about raising children is hard work?
I know that it is, it’s just that I’m still single and want the perspective of parents. If I find the right person and eventually have children, I want to know what to expect. Thanks.
I know that it is, it’s just that I’m still single and want the perspective of parents. If I find the right person and eventually have children, I want to know what to expect. Thanks.
Raising a child is the hardest task you can ever take on. You are responsible for another life, in every aspect of the word. From the moment that child is concieved it is your responsibility to ensure they are safe, comfortable, healthy, educated, disciplined, respectful, and thats just the major things. You have to make sure they are fed, clothed, and clean. You have to teach them right from wrong, proper manners, and even the simplest of tasks like walking and talking.
When they do something bad, do something wrong, act a way that is disrespectful, or basically act bad, you are the one that people look at as the reason they are this way. The same is true when they are good, act respectful and show the teachings of a good parent.
A child is a wonderful thing, to me its not a job, but a gift I have been given to make the world a better place. They cost a pretty penny to raise (one statistic showed the "average" child costing a parent 1.5 million by the time they are 18 years old and that was done about 8 years ago, and no one has an average child!)
Each child is an individual with different problems and different gifts that affect a family. This in itself can make raising a child harder or easier. I personally dont consider it hard work, but instead a challange that I have enjoyed taking on.
Buying milk for infants is costly, and the tantrums they throw! They sometimes do it at the store and start crying and laying on the floor. But the good thing about them is that they’re all yours, and no matter what happends you love them no matter what. I still cry if my child cries.
For me it’s knowing that every choice I make will affect their life somehow. I’ve been raising both of my kids in church and if you raise them how the bible says you should then you’ll have pleasant children that will bring you joy and that want to please God which will be very pleasing for you.
The cost( price of diapers, baby Formauls($) is your child has food allergies like mine, clothing, doctor visits, and the price just to have them in a hospital) is a lot. If you’re financilally stable, have a partner who is willing to split the bill(duties of taking care of the baby) and allow you a piece of mind, then it actually isn’t all that difficult. The first few months are a bit different(but that’s with everything) because you come from being pregnant and being tired all the time and having a child that wakes up every 3 to 4 hours on the hour to eat and refuses to sleep without that meal. But with patience and a loving heart, you’ll get through, because when you see that adorable little face, you’ll be happy just to say, ‘that’s my baby.’
Well i had my baby at 17 and it wasnt hard at all. Alot of people told me i was not gonna sleep and my whole lifestyle was going to change. That wasnt the case with me. Lucky for me my son slept through the night and as long as he had toys he would let me do anything. I guess it just depends on your child.
My son is just going away to college in two days and I love him more than anything on this Earth but it was CHALLENGING raising him. He is gorgeous, smart and very popular. However, if I had a dollar for every time he was unkind to me and made me cry (ESPECIALLY the teen years!), I would be a BILLIONAIRE! The kids seem to grow up and not appreciate all of your hard work and sacrifices, which is so sad for mom & dad. That being said, I wouldn’t trade even one second with him for ANYTHING. He is my pride and joy and I am so grateful to have him in my life. But it IS difficult raising a child. I only have one but I can’t even imagine more than that. My husband and I will miss our son but look forward to QUIET evenings together with our pets when he goes to college!
I am a stay at home dad with a 19 month old and a 4 year old. Here goes:
On any given day one of them wakes up way too early.
They share a room and keep each other up later than they should.
They fight and its hard to explain to the 19 month old that pulling hair and pinching isn’t funny.
Little ones enjoy throwing food and making a mess far more than it really is.
They scream.
One of em usually smells bad. (Usually the little one.)
You have to worry about them all the time.
You never know what they are putting in their mouths.
There are stupid people in the world that want to hurt your kids.
Kids don’t understand how important they are to you.
You have never seen laundry like that can be produced from two little girls.
They outgrow clothes and shoes like nobody’s business.
They team up on you and if they outnumber you, they will split up and take out your flank when you’re not looking.
I could go on, but I’m just too tired.
But I wouldn’t replace either of them for all the money in the world. The joy you get from seeing how beautiful and smart they can be will make you more proud than you can comprehend if you don’t have kids.
Being married is hard work–having children is hard work and sometime’s more for one person than the other.
To give you perspectives of all this, you go to grocery stores, clothing stores and such, you see the prices of certain items whether it’s food or clothing and you may hear of what it cost for a babysitter/daycare–that’s the perspective of cost.
Perspective of cost doesn’t consist of who’s going to do this or that–like get up in the middle of the night for a feeding and you both have to get up in the morning to go to work. Then again, you may have a baby that sleeps all night long. What to expect–many things that may or may not happen.
Life is life–with or without a family, husband or children–you never know what to expect.
I think the hardest thing about being a parent is when something is wrong and you can’t fix it for them. Whether it is a scraped knee or a broken bone or when your child is struggling to learn something new. You feel so helpless when you can’t fix it for them!!
A piece of advice from a mom of almost 4 to a single woman who wants children in the future: Expect the unexpected.
I can remember one afternoon I was grading papers, feeding my youngest son, making dinner, helping my oldest son with his homework, emptying the dishwasher and talking to my husband about our insurance policy all at the same time. Never in a million years did I see myself multitasking as well as I do as often as I do. I amaze myself. The skills/tasks you will learn when you become a parent will go way beyond what you will expect of yourself.
Expect your eye sight to get worse but for eyes to grow in the back of your head. Expect to gain the ability to block out certain noises (kids fighting over something stupid while youre on the phone), but ears to perk up and pick out bad words when your kids use unnecessary language. Expect to learn how to make your face not seem like you didn’t sleep all night and which face means your kid is lieing/hiding something from you. Expect to say to youself, "Let me get a head start on the laundry." only to find the basket full the following night. Expect to find peices of food in strange places. Expect to say "Oh yeahhh, I didn’t realize that." a couple times when your kid comes home with some silly fact you never would have thought of. (The ABC’s and Twinkle Little Star have the same tune, Food and Good are spelled almost the same but don’t rhyme) Expect to fall on your face laughing, scream until your face turns blue, get annoyed when something doesn’t turn out the way you want it and smile when you see your child finally do something they’ve been working on for a while all in a matter of a hour. Expect your priorities to change, to learn to go with the flow, take one day at a time and to give uncondional love. Most of all, expect the unexpected. It’s the key to parenting. I love it.
Best wishes =]
in the begining physically it is hard the sleeplessnights the changing of diapers. Then they crawl and walk and you have to constantly wacth them because they don’t know any better and get into everything. You have to take complete care of them. Feed them, bath, dress and clean up after them.
Then they go to school you need to teach them manners help with homework. If you want them to be well rounded there is extra ativities they go to so you become a taxi. You have to get them ready to be independent so you have to teach them to live independently without you but at the same time you want to protect them and do everything for them. Then when they are 18 your job is not over it just goes down. You at least I feel still have a resposiblity to help them when and where you can with in reason and to be there for them emotionally all while living your life
The small things add up: lots of laundry, preparing meals, changing diapers, cleaning messes, spending lots of time preparing to go anywhere, bathing, and so on and so forth. Adds a lot of extra chores to your life. This can be a good thing as it will get your butt organized pretty quickly.
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It’s a wonderful job but remember, this is a ‘job’ that you can’t quit, better when they become adults but it doesn’t stop. 24/7/365/till the day God calls you back. Lol………..
It’s a joy. It’s the most wonderful job. You will have a life if you set the right tone and have the healthy perspective, but don’t expect the right pay and paid vacation. Forget about raises. Don’t insist the job review will necessarily be favorable. If you think your boss is crazy, you will believe you’re living with the insane. If you can allow yourself to be lighter and can find humor in just about everything, then you may be ready. If not, make sure you have a padded room so you can throw yourself against the wall at times. You can’t actively influence your kids but you can’t control them like you handle your colleagues. Don’t expect credits but enjoy them if they come along unexpectedly.
I am half joking about it. As I wrote, one can’t go on as a parent without humor. Lol……………
When the right time comes, you will enjoy it. The best job you can have with a neverending contract and no favorable terms.
I have a 9 month old. Even though he sleeps 7am – 7pm, i am tired all day from washing, cleaning, shopping, feeding, playing, teaching, soothing, worrying,, preventing accidents & many more.
I tried for my son for years and i love him more than anything in the world. When people tell you its the most rewarding but difficult job you will ever have, you can never understand until you do it day in and day out.
It is a job 24/7 with no sick days or holidays. Its the worst job in the world and the best job in the world. Its heart breaking and wonderful.
Nothiing can prepare you for children, no amount of babysitting will ever make you realise how difficult and how tiring it is. If you have a full time job, its like working allday then doing a nightshift.
However, if you desire children, you will read this with rose tinted glasses!