What do children bring into a relationship?
My girlfriend has 2 children (7,9) from a previous relationship and suggests they have so much to offer. However i’ve never really been very interested in talking to children before and wonder what she means when she says they have lots to offer and are a privelige to know.
They are nice children but and i would be happy to have fun with them but i don’t understand what they could "offer" an adult. Any ideas?
The bottom line is that in this situation, (I know as I’m in exactlythe same one,) you will have to put up with a LOT, but it’s actually worth it in the end. They will moan, cry, scream and say that they hate you, but once you’ve earned their trust they become more and more like your own kids, and that turns out to be the most rewarding feeling in the world.
Stick with it mate, it’ll be worth it in the end.
Nothing beneficial in your life.
Worries about what THEIR choices throughout YOUR life.
Dealing with changes in them. (They’ll probably end up hating you in their teens)
Leave you with hardly any money because you have to support them financially (food, clothing, bills etc)
No free time. (When they’re at school you’re probably working)
By the time you get rid of them you’re too old to do all the things you missed out on.
You can’t exactly just leave them like in a relationship because they’re children.
So many more negative things.
I hate children.
Dude,kids give you the gift of innocence.they give you trust and love and ask only that you pay some attention to them (and occasional candy)They can take you back to when you were a child,If you let it happen.Children are the magic that lets a grandfather (me) be young again.
dude kids are our futre
you must have been a child one day
all kids need role modols
gove them all you can to make 3 of them happy and the will make you happy to
atleast give them a chance to meet them and see how they are
They aren’t your kids, they have little to offer you.
Once you have children of your own you will change your tune, but oter peoples children will never be the same as your own.
Pride. When your heart has wrapped around that child well enough to love him/her like your own, then you will find it a pleasure to "get into their little worlds" and enjoy childhood again (but with them!) Since you’d be taking on the daddy role, ie; being a provider, protector, teacher and doctor, etc.. you will reap the benefits of watching them earn awards at school and watching their faces glow…or witness them TRUSTING you enough to follow your advice which will lead them into becoming productive young men and women…in which you can take a lot of the credit for. Your adult children will come over to your house to help you with that backyard project… and if you’re lucky, will even wipe your old @$# when you can no longer walk or hold your bowels. They may even visit you in the nursing home and bring you your Grandchildren on Father’s Day to share their homemade cards with….
Children are your future, an emotional investment and family home base. But, for now while they are little, PRIDE is what you should be reaping from them, besides happily handing you the remote!
perhaps she means happiness, closeness, love….