What do wealthy parents teach their children to give them that encourages them to pursue wealth?
I am from a middle class family, in law school, to pursue a better life for my family. I want to teach my children what my parents taught me as well as what they might have not known to teach me that children of wealthy parents might learn.
Please only responses from those who are wealthy.
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I am not sure if you would label me as wealthy.
From the moment my children starting talking about life an education has been part of that discussion. There is no doubt in their mind that they will have careers and those careers require education.
I also discuss money with them, including looking over my records (with the teens) to show them about assets, cash, obligations etc.
A big difference I see between me and more middle class families, is that honesty and integrity are important values, not just within ourselves, but the friends we choose. My children would not even think about taking advantage of another human being.
As I own a lot of property and people of different classes live in those properties they are exposed to various life styles. I think that helps too, knowing how other people live ("see, you will live like this without a good job") helps them make choices about their own lives.
I also teach my kids that every single one of us decides out income, life styles, etc on our own. I hold them, myself, and others accountable.
The best response I can think of is to teach your children to live within their means; to avoid debt as much as possible, do not give in to "instant gratification", and to enjoy the intangible things of life.
Not everything in life is enjoyed through money. Intangible things like friends, family, a beautiful sunset, a beach, even your health, your mobility, your sight. All these contribute to a "wealthy" life.
Living within one’s means is by far the best way to achieve the quality of life known as "wealth".
We teach fiscal responsibility. Money and finances are not something taught in school and it is something that has to be learned, for the most part, on your own. So while they learn reading and writing in school we teach them about saving 10% and about loans, staying out of debt, living below your mean, discipline. This has to be done on a childs level of course, but there are some great tools and games to use. I would recommend books like "allowance magic" They even have a website. And other books that are written for children.
Things we have done for our children… We go to the fair and they each get $20.00 (we would have spent this on rides or food or other things) They get to spend the money. When it is gone it is gone. They buy their lunch (we still control what they can buy to a point- NO buying 6 cotton and candies) but they control the money…. and they make me proud, when the money is gone they have learned that is it, do not ask me for more money. It is great, in stores, when they ask if they can have something. My answer is yes or no based on whether I think as a parent they should have it. Whether they can afford it is up to them and based on them having saved money from allowance and chores. We do not get arguments from them about money in this way, only that they cannot have something because it will honestly spoil dinner or such. If we say yes and they want to spend money we get to gently talk to them about it. "are you sure you want this toy? Remember, you have things like this and lose interest quickly. If you purchase it you may not be able to get the new bike you really want"
This helps them to learn control over impulse buying. We also teach budgeting so our children know how much is in savings, spending, tithing etc. It is up to them to keep accounts (even the younger ones)
Ultimately lead by example, Save 10%, control your impulse buying, live below your means, control your debt etc and let them see this and explain it to them.
If you go to amazon there are a lot of childrens books and dvds about money. Read the reviews and get a few. These books are for all ages from 2-3 up to investing for teens.
I might not be wealthy by some standards not but I’m on my way at 24. I do have a couple insights though. Wealthy individuals do not always, not even many times pass on the drive to succeed to their children. The children have many advantages but they often lack that drive or passion to succeed that their parents had because they have access to what they want (many times) and lack that underdog feel to motivate themselves to succeed and innovate. Look throughout history at those with great wealth or success. Then look at their children after them and how many times they failed to keep something going or let businesses slip on their own. Ford, waltons, Rockefeller, these were all men with huge industries and wealth that was passed on and their children lost much of the wealth and certainly didn’t grow on it. Your drive, work ethic and values will be seen by them and they will benefit most with that. Spending time with them as they get older and telling them all your "secrets" will motivate them and help drive them to see that they can do whatever they put their mind too. Lastly encourage them to get into something that they truly have a passion for. Their was a 20 year survey of 100 people. After college 93 went out and got jobs in order to pay the bills and start their life. The other seven went out and pursued what they truly had a passion for regardless of its income. After 20 years 8 people were millionaires, the 7 that followed their passion and only one from the other category. Good luck and sorry if I wasted your time.
We discuss finances openly. As soon as children can read and do simple math about 2nd or 3rd grade they see the family budget, taught to buy only what they can afford after bills are paid and money added to savings. We discussed investments, financial section of the paper, that your credit is your reputation. Proud to say both kids are grown with families of their own and doing very well.
I would advise you to read "Automatic Millionaires" or "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" for ways of teaching your child the importance of saving and investing. You must also teach them the difference between the two as well. By them learning this at an early age, they would avoid the typical mistakes that most people make.
Wealth is based on perception. It’s all in where you your vantage point is. Teaching them how to be the best person they can possibly be would probably be the best route. I’ve been at different levels financially so the experience is broad. From sleeping on moms couch, to living on gated golf courses. I personally do not discuss my personal finances with my children, but I do teach them about how to handle finances, the idea behind credit, investing in one-self, and so on. Ive read a few articles that I really liked at imasingleparent101.com. They were pretty informative, and had decent content. Best of luck.
Another great book about using allowance from pre-school through high school to learn money management skills is ‘capitate your kid’.
I also have a growing grid of information that shows my kids various professions, the gpa needed, the amt & cost of training, the annual salary, and pro’s and con’s of that occupation.
“wealth” a very relative word ~ If I own 20 million dollars and compare myself to Bernard Arnault then I’m poor! ~ As a father will know the lack of information your parents failed to provide you and together with what they did teach you, you’ll be able to apply new ways to your children.
Money doesn’t buy happiness but it does help, the best thing to provide to your children is your time ~
I wish my parents had spent more time with me than the actual nanny. Good Luck!