What gives adults the right to hit children?
I see adults abusing mentally, emotionally, and physically children. These adults include parents, guardians, uncles, aunts, teachers, anyone really that are SUPPOSED to be a good example for children. What gives them the right to do this and demean the children? Do they just think they have power and are all around bigger and better? I understand children are growing and learning but it is not necessary to teach children with violence. It’s a vicious cycle unfortunately and it would be nice if I didn’t have to witness children being yelled at and smacked it makes me sick to my stomach.
I see it happening alot with parents hitting there children, screaming at there children etc.
All i know is it makes me give my child even bigger hugs and cuddles, and i tell her even more every day how important she is to me and how proud i am of her, and how much i love her so much
well the next time you see that go up to them and ask cause nobody else knows
I went through that as a child and it messed me up in my teens until I grew up and realised that I had to leave it behind. Mostly these adults were abused themselves as children and feel the need to reciprocate it on the next generation, whether it is a cry of frustration, an idea that abuse is normal or plain maliciousness varies.
They don’t have a right. That is why it is called child abuse.
Do you have a better idea? Some kids won’t listen and will run all over people and timeouts don’t work.
Depends what you are talking about. Discipline and abuse are two very different things… I guess you don’t have kids? Or if you do, are they well behaved? Would be interesting to know but I guess I never will. I don’t have kids, I’m just thinking…
yeh, i’ve been hit and abused all my life. My mum said because i’ve deserved it and it teaches children not to do it again.
But the thing she doesn’t know is, is that i’ve had enough so much, that next time she does,i’ll hit her back! flippin hard! so it doesn’t really solve anything!
Yeh, it does make you a bit more decent (polite) when your older, but now i’m scared of everything coz i think iu’ll get the worst of it!
so the answer is nothing, they do it for pleasure
Adults have no right to hit children. Those who are hitting their children, have no buisness having children of their own. It’s cruel and evil. Children are so innocent and if you want them to grow up into good, nice people, they shouldnt be taught that a little mistake gets you admitted to the hospital. People make mistakes. Children make mistakes. You dont see anybody going around abusing adults if they do something wrong? How is this any different? Children are people just as much as adults are.
By "hit" do you mean Spank?
Are you trying to equate corporal punishment with abuse?
Adults that abuse their children are problem parents. All they are doing is raising a violent person. Children growing up in abuse often become abusers. Children need love and support, not violence
its not right…. and they have no right…..
Me too if its a couple its viewed as domestic violence or control if its members of the public you can take them to court yet they seem perfectly comfortable with correcting a child this way.Its just not acceptable to me.
I don’t agree with the person that says most of these people were abused themselves and what-not. If they were abused themselves then they should’ve wanted to be better for their own children. And being abused is just an EXCUSE to abuse a child when you’re older, there’s not justified reason behind that. I was severely mentally abused and mildly physically abused growing up, I would never even think of laying a hand on or belittling my children.
I don’t think hitting children is right. It will never happen to mine. People wonder why there’s so much violence in our society today..and it’s because that’s all children know, that’s how they were raised.
I agree with you 100%. It makes me sick to my stomach to see that too! There’s better ways to teach your children than through violence and abuse,
I don’t believe in "hitting" children. Or yelling at them. But to give them a little pop on the butt while being calm isn’t going to hurt them. But for people who scream at their kids and always spanking them are just cruel.
Seemingly the same idea and mentality that makes them think that they have the right to get their boys circumcised.
I was abused, "so calling spanking" which was far greater than a spank growing up. Im 18 and my parents still try to beat me up when they can. I havn’t learned anything from my parents. I’ve only got yelled at and hit in my life. More yelled at, like everyday for everything. I had both parents torturing me together. I honestly learned nothing good from this so called "disipline" it taught me violence, that when i was younger, i accidently hit 2 kids once and tryed to choke another. I honestly havn’t learned anything from this. i know will talk back to my parents, and i will hit back my mom. its a natrual reaction, i had enough of all that bullshtit from her, that if i get angry at her, id hit her back, but not when my dads around, cause even though he doesnt love my mom, for some reason he’d try to kill me. my parents hnestly havnt given themselves a good name to me. i hate them more than love them. i still have some emotional attachement to them, but not as much as when i was younger. it only gave me anger problems, and to fight back and talk back. many parents dont realize that if they hit their kids to teach them, they wont trust you when ur older,and than they will get more problematic. if a parent raises their kids from babyhood and not spoil them till their like 5, theirs better chances of them being more behaved at an older age. many parents do it wrong, and because of that they cant teach them anymore, and realize their anger through hitting them, their isnt spanking anymore, people know hit their kids for everything they dont like. i saw a mom hit her 2 yr old child on her butt, because she didnt like the movie, she barly attemped to compromise with her, me being a chilld myself didnt know what to do. but to make kids do what i wanted i always made sure to have a reward for them. so it was easier to control. many parents know dont bother reaosning with their kids and hit them because its fast and easy, but honestly its not teaching them a fuck….its corrupting them, and than u wonder why some kids are criminals and some are not….i think that some are stronger to be good people, but some arnt so strong and do the wrong things, because they werent taught correctly. parents dont understand that raising kids is like a game, theirs only 2 directions they can get too. which one they will take will all depend on their attitude and behaviors towards raising their kids. i played with kids all my life, i saw how spanking affected me, and others. its not really that good. specially threatning a 4 year old child, that daddy will come home and spank u hard, if u dont stop being bad. its more instilling threats in their minds than actual disipline and correction. since when was spanking a kid cause their a kid correction. why cant u spank a criminal or spank ur neighbour, or why cant a child spank their parents, because the adults were being bad. since when was being 5 or 16 or w/e age matter. if u dont want to be spanked cause it hurts why do it to them. like i cant spank a person on the street for being stupid because i will go to jail, than why can u spank a kid for being stupid cause ur bigger than them. its more a question of power and parents feel good spanking their kids cause they feel in control. its more of a control freak thing. it really works bullshit….
Actually they have no right to do that. Especially not teachers that is actually illegal at least where I come from. Neither do relatives unless it a spanks or a smacking of the hand. I used to babysit a little girl named Ashley I was 13 and her parents would sometimes call and say "We are totally like smoking the weed so keep her for the night, alright honey?" What could I say? I was 13. Sometimes they would be drunk when they came to pick her up, she was only a tiny baby who was really teeny because of her mom drinking and smoking when she was pregnant when she was pregnant with her and I would want to say "Can me and my family adopt her?" Unfortunately for me and little Ashley her parents laughed and thought it was a joke when I was completely serious. Now she is about fourteen and looks like she is eleven because she’s underweight. She can’t gain weight. I see her once in a while at Wal mart. Also when her parents used to bring her she always smelled of smoke. She still does. I still want to adopt her. She spends nights at her friend’s house with out her parents even knowing her parents leave for days and she lives on her own, as far as she tells me. I want to do something about it but hell it’s so much easier to just invite her in for weeks at a time instead.
Not this old chestnut again.
obviously there is a world of difference between abuse and discipline.
You cannot expect a child to respond to the calm logical verbal reasoning of an adult as to to disapproval of this or that behaviour. It is not meaningful, immediate or of their world wheras a mild physical resonse is.
Physical means should be discontinued as early as possible to be replaced with other forms of guidance of a more positive and mutually rewarding nature.
Parents hit children because they are emotionally immature and too stupid to figure out better ways to discipline their children. Hitting is the easy way out. It actually takes a brain to stop and think if their actions will negatively impact their children in the future. If these parents had been REAL parents to begin with, they wouldn’t have little terrors for children who are out of control and who need severe discipline.
Yeah, there’s a world of difference between hitting a child and spanking one. To spank or not is a choice that is left to each parent. One parenting style isn’t really better than another style. It’s only different. It’s a TOTAL lack of teaching and discipline that breeds constant misbehavior.
I don’t understand why a parent would choose to scream or go on a tirade. If the child didn’t listen the first few times, he/she isn’t likely to listen at all. That’s where punishments come in. Time-outs, being grounded, or getting spanked have a wonderful way of improving a kid’s hearing – AND his/her memory.
I think it is horrible hearing about how kids are abused, neglected, and killed by anyone. Everyday when I turn on the news, all I hear is more and more children being kidnapped, molested, and killed. How could someone look at a child and think nasty thoughts about touching them and having sex with them. It is down right disgusting. They are so young and innocent.
I hate it when teachers abuse kids. I think they do it either to fit in with the other kids or to show that they are in power. What makes me really mad is how parents abuse their children. Children are supposed to look up to their parents and go to them whenever they need help or support. If a child can’t even trust their own parents, then how are they supposed to trust others?
No one has the right to abuse anyone, especially children. Those parents who do are the ones who should not be parents.
Nothing gives them the right!
But it doesn’t change the fact that they still do it, unfortunately.
i wonder this too. i look at my little girls and i could never raise a finger to her…theres a fine line between discipline and abuse but in reality there is no reason whatsoever to smack at all. since day 1 ive used other forms of punishment and its always worked…and im a young lone parent who people assume will be a rubbish mum!! its sheer laziness and people just cant be bothered to find another way to deal with it so they just smack. even though it achieves nothing…now i hardly ever have to discipline my daughter….parents just need to use their brains sometimes
This question is getting old now…(sigh).
‘What gives adults the right to hit children?’
What gives you the right to question how parents bring up their own children?
There is a big difference between a smack on the back of the legs and child abuse.