What is the psychology of children abandoned by their mothers, particularly daughters?
I often hear about the psychology/effects/issues of children abandoned by fathers, but what is the psychology/effects/issues of children abandoned by mothers? In particular, how do daughters react when abandoned by mothers at a young age?
I often feel alone, Its hard for me to trust people because your own mother can do you wrong so anyone can, Problems with relationships because i think that the guy will abandon me at some point, The need to feel loved by someone unconditionally, Jealous of your friends relationships with there mothers, anger, depression.
they sometimes don’t feel they are loved. or maybe they feel like they want the other side of them they don’t have and they want to feel.
In the case of Meg Ryan, they become world-famous actresses and get to turn their back on their mothers when the mother, who abandoned her children to try to be an movie star herself, tries to come back and jump in on the daughter’s success.
That’s just one story, of course. I had a classmate whose mother preferred alcohol to her children, and she came to live with her father. When she became an adult, she herself turned to heroin, and abandoned her own kids. Sad.
They deal with the typical abandonment issues. Usually a fear of rejection and abandonment. Difficulty in relationships/intimacy due to the fear. Also low self-esteem brought on by the negative thoughts due to non-existent mother. Consisting of worthlessness, dirtiness, no good, and unlovable. Usually have defense mechanisms set in place from childhood to protect against others who may try to hurt them. These defense mechanisms make it hard for them to create lasting relationships. Jealousy of others who do have relationships is usually a characteristic. They sometimes have the inability to fathom love of another. Depending on the situation they may turn to addictions, sometimes sexual because of the absence of love. Depending on their home situation they may even have difficulty relating to the opposite sex because their mother wasn’t around to teach them properly. Anger/Depression/Rage/Sorrow/Loneliness. Fear of being alone forever. This is my research and my personal experience. All of the characteristics may not be for every single person, but i do believe that most of them are. I also believe in the freedom of Christ. Freedom in Christ brings healing. It isn’t easy, it isn’t instant, it’s a work in progress, but I do not believe it is possible without His Love and Grace. Forgiving your Mother is the first step.
the thing that i want to know is why mothers leave their daughters i think if they didn’t want a child they shouldn’t of had one in the first place i know that im depressed cause my mother left me a lot of times but when she knew i was doing well with my father and step mother she wanted me back and then she didnt want me again i went to leave with my father in miami and all the anger i had for my mother i took it out on my father and step mother i also began doing drugs started having sex with random guys and girls and i starting drinking alot and i got pregnant with my ex boyfriend and i gave my baby up for adoption cause i was so young and didnt know how to take care of a baby now im pregnant again and i cant wait until the baby comes so i can love it the way my mother didnt love me……..